There was an interesting study that was published on this in the past few months, it’s a study that came out of the University of North Carolina that showed that people who are more self-aware have better relationships and are less likely to start fights. That’s the first of three levels.
This seems like a pretty obvious point, but self-awareness has a big impact on how we see ourselves which is why you can’t just slap self-awareness on people. It affects how we see the world around us, and if you want to see what those effects are, check out the study.
Self-awareness has an effect on our relationships as well as how we see ourselves. When we are less self-aware, we often start taking the world more for granted and our relationships are less stable. We end up being less likely to start fights or arguments, and we are also less likely to stick with people who are less self-aware.
There are a couple of ways in which self-awareness affects people. One is that if we’re not self-aware of ourselves, then we’re more likely to be dismissive of others instead of trying to understand them. That may be true for the people we already know, but it’s also true for those we don’t. It has to do with the way we see things, as well as what we think of ourselves.
This idea of “being more self-aware” has been around awhile. In the 1960s it was called “paranoia,” and it has a very old-fashioned ring to it. The idea is that if we have a sense of our own inadequacy, we become paranoid. We start looking for other people who are in a similar frame of mind as ourselves, and we look for ways to make ourselves feel better.
A more modern take on this is the idea of “proposition in a sentence.” By applying this to ourselves, we’re allowing ourselves to make a judgment of our own adequacy without the need of the other person around to validate our thoughts. We’re able to recognize that we’re not as good as we think we are, and we start to see how others are not as good and to feel even more inadequate.
I still think we’re being judged by others. But we are still judging ourselves.
This is a simple question, but I think it’s a great one. I’m not just saying this to be a great lesson to others, but to make ourselves less like ourselves.
We are judging our own adequacy but we are also judging others. If we are so good we don’t even need others to validate our opinions, then the problem is even bigger. We’ve created a self-fulfilling prophecy. We’ve made ourselves believe that we are better than we really are. Or we’ve actually made ourselves believe that we are better than we really are.
Many people have the same self-fulfilling prophecy. Weve thought that we’re the only people who can actually be the best. But we are the only people who can be the best. So we’ve created a self-fulfilling prophecy.